In a recent online confession, a woman shared her tumultuous journey with her parents and their disapproval of her husband. She demands they apologize sincerely if they ever want to be part of her family's life again. Here is her detailed story.

I (27f) met my husband Jamie (27m) in high school. He was the boy with a bad reputation for dumb things, and by dumb things I mean not stuff he did but stuff he didn't do, like going home or having an adult around him. His mother was an addict who didn't let him come home before 12am on any given night. So he would spend his time in different places, which made adults think poorly of him. By the time people realized it was because he had a terrible mother, they judged him for her actions. My parents were some of those judgmental people. They saw him out past dark and made comments.
They were awful when Jamie and I started dating. I told them they considered themselves Christian and should be more understanding and welcoming of someone who didn't have a good home life. They'd say he wasn't trying, as if he could do anything about his mother. They judged him for not going to college and deemed him lazy for not going even though he had held a job since he was 14 and, with the help of the couple he worked for, went to trade school.
My parents were so unpleasant about it all that we didn't talk for a whole year. Then they reached out via my siblings to apologize to me, and they seemed to accept Jamie and realize they had been wrong about him. Jamie always got along with my siblings. But he started to get along with my parents too and it was nice.
We got married two years ago and welcomed our first baby together in June.
Last month we had a big fight. They revealed that they had kept their opinions to themselves for this long but never saw Jamie as a good person, they always saw him as trash. It all started because Jamie was alone with the baby for an entire day and they were horrified that I trusted him to watch our child without me there. They spewed such hateful things about Jamie that aren't true. He is an amazing dad and husband. He's not his mother. He has never been in trouble with the law. So, the fact they spoke about him as if he were some criminal? I was so angry. I kicked them out and told them I was done with them.
We're still good with my siblings, which is where this post is taking us. We started talking about Christmas and Jamie and I said we'd host them. My mom was trying to get my siblings to ask me if I would come to Christmas dinner at their house with the baby. One sibling said Jamie and I were hosting. Upon learning that, my mom took the said sibling's phone and called and asked me how I could leave them uninvited. I told her if they ever want to be invited to anything again they will truly reflect on their actions and words and make a real and heartfelt apology to Jamie. But that is the only way. And it has to be real and to him, not me. I then hung up on my mom.
My parents are now claiming I am trying to blackmail them, which I don't think they truly know what that means. And a text (I assume is from my mom) accused me of being disrespectful of my parents and said you can't demand an apology.
Am I wrong?

The overwhelming sentiment in the comments was supportive of the poster and critical of her parents. The vast majority of commenters judged that the poster was not in the wrong (NTA) and praised her for standing up for her husband. They condemned the parents for their judgmental and hypocritical behavior, often pointing out that their actions contradicted the Christian values they claimed to uphold. Many commenters also shared their own experiences with similarly judgmental family members, further empathizing with the poster's situation. A few comments expressed skepticism about the likelihood of receiving a genuine apology from the parents and suggested that it might be better to maintain a distance permanently. Overall, the comments were in strong support of the poster's decision to set firm boundaries with her parents.

One of the top comments emphasized the hypocrisy of the parents, noting that they do not understand the basic tenets of how a marriage works despite claiming to be Christians. The commenter pointed out that when the poster and her spouse married, they became a united entity. By insulting her husband, the parents were effectively insulting her as well. The comment suggested that the parents should be left alone to "simmer" and that the poster should not stress over the situation, trusting that they might come around eventually. The concluding thought was that, regardless of the parents’ actions, the poster's heart would be able to move on.

Another highly-rated comment expressed disbelief at the parents' statement that the poster's husband was untrustworthy with his own child. The commenter criticized this mindset as "horrible" and highlighted that the parents might pretend to change their opinions but their unfavorable view of the husband was likely set in stone. The comment succinctly encapsulated this by stating, “They may be able to pretend for a bit, but their opinion of him is set in stone."

A third notable comment focused on the extraordinary resilience and character of the husband, recounting the poster’s account of his difficult upbringing and transformation into a loving husband and father. It applauded the husband for rising above his circumstances and reiterated that he is not defined by his mother’s actions. The commenter urged the poster to stand by her husband and affirmed that her parents owe him a heartfelt apology. This message was echoed throughout the comment section, with many agreeing that the parents’ behavior was indefensible given the husband’s exemplary conduct and dedication to his family.

In conclusion, the poster received overwhelming support for her stance against her parents' judgmental and hypocritical behavior. The consensus among commenters was clear: she is not in the wrong for demanding a heartfelt apology for her husband, who has shown nothing but resilience and dedication despite his challenging upbringing. This situation underscores the importance of setting boundaries to protect loved ones from toxic behavior, even if it means distancing oneself from close family members. As the holiday season approaches, the poster's resolve to prioritize the well-being of her husband and child over appeasing her parents serves as a powerful reminder of the true essence of family and love.